What is your story?
Your story or in other words, what you believe your authentic self to be transmits energy, perceived luck or fortune, worldview and other intangible attributes to the people around you. That is why it is vital that you have both a realistic and positive story to tell not only the people you meet and deal with on a day-to-day basis, but also yourself.
Here are some tips that I use with my personal coaching clients to construct and maintain a positive story.
- Recognize that there are always two stories
- Evaluate whether the dominate story is positive or negative – If negative, write down a different story
- Accept that you control which story you choose to tell
- Tell your positive story to yourself and others often
Recognized that there are always two stories
In almost everyone, there are two stories that are in conflict with each other. There is a negative story that you sometimes buy into when things are not going right for you and then there is the story about how you have worked hard, paid your dues and many other positive attributes.
Evaluate whether the dominate story is positive or negative
This part is simple to do. When you tell your story, does it leave you feeling positive or negative? If your story or authentic self-perspective is closer to Eeyore, then you need to sit down and work on developing a positive story that you can use to redefine yourself and start telling a more positive story.
Everyone has strengths and positives and while it may be hard at times to bring those forward, if you are looking to transition your life, your career into something greater than where you currently are, you will need to make that positive story the dominate of two.
Accept that you control which story you choose to tell
This action step may be a difficult one if you are coming off a set back or two. Accepting that you control which story you choose to tell is very powerful in shifting how you define your authentic self and the direction you want to take your life.
Choosing to tell the positive empowering story can also lead you from thinking of yourself as someone who has little control over their life to a person who is intentional about what they are doing and where they are going.
Tell your positive story to yourself and others often
Telling your story to yourself and others often has never been easier than it is today. If you are active on Linked In or other networking / social websites, you have had to or will have to tell your story.
When you are telling your story, you are in control of that narrative. Make sure that you are intentional about using positive words and phrases in your story. If you follow this tip, you will be surprised that in a short period, your attitude will start to change and I even bet that your luck starts to change as well.
Have you had to change your story? Do you have a comment about this topic? If so, please share your thoughts with the Get2it community we would love to hear how you changed based on changing your story.